9 Gift Ideas for Your Pregnant Wife on Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is one month from today and if your wife will be pregnant then, the time to think about her Mother’s Day gift is now.

This is in no way scientific nor conclusive, but I posed the following question on my Facebook page and to my Twitter followers last week: “When does a woman become a mother? In pregnancy or after baby is born?” 9 out of 10 women said, “Pregnancy!”

So, if you’re wondering if you should get something for your first-time pregnant wife this Mother’s Day, the answer is “yes.”

If your next question is, “Then what should I get my pregnant wife for Mother’s Day?”, here are some suggestions:

1. Gift Certificate for Maternity Clothes

mother's day gift pregnant wifeYear after year, I see well-meaning husbands order maternity clothes for their wives at Maternitique, and year after year, more than half the ladies return the items because they either don’t fit or they weren’t quite the right style.

If your wife is pregnant this Mother’s Day, you’re on the right track with wanting to give her special maternity clothes that make her feel and look beautiful. But because sizing, cut and fabric can make the difference between something she loves and something that just doesn’t work, let her choose the maternity clothes herself.

For the gift, purchase a maternity gift certificate or two so she can pick out her own clothes and choose the correct size herself. Or, make her a “gift certificate” that promises her a day of shopping where you take her out.

2. Accessories for her Maternity Wardrobe

If a boxed and wrapped gift is what you really want to present to your pregnant wife on Mother’s Day, then be smart about it and choose items that have more flexibility vis-a-vis sizing.

For example, a colorful scarf can do a lot to refresh a woman’s wardrobe and make her current stash of maternity clothes feel a little more exciting to her. For you, it’s a win because a scarf is “one size fits all.” All you have to do is get a color and/or pattern that she’ll love to wear with one of her current maternity tops or dresses. You can do that, right? Sure you can!

You can even infuse your gift of a spring scarf with more sentiment by choosing a color to symbolize the sex of your baby (pink scarf for a girl, blue for a boy, yellow or green or gray if you don’t know yet), or a pattern that represents the nickname you have your expected bundle of joy. For example, if you refer to your unborn baby as “bumblebee,” choose a floral print. Little bird? Find a feather pattern scarf. Cub? Animal print. You get the idea!

Head over to Zappos.com and search for scarves. You’ll have almost 500 options for women and you easily narrow by price, color and style.

3. Maternity Jewelry

pregnant wife gift mothers dayIf either of those two ideas feels too “iffy” for you, opt for something that never goes out of style: jewelry. Make Mother’s Day memorable for your pregnant wife with a gift of a bold bracelet, long necklace or a chunky necklace.

Why these choices for a pregnant woman? Any of these three options will draw attention away from her swelling belly and ankles when she wears it, so she’ll not only feel loved, but also more beautiful.

We have two stunning sterling silver pieces that have been best-sellers for Mother’s Day gifts: the Teething Ring Bracelet (pictured) and the Teething Ring Necklace. Because they come with a lifetime guarantee, are made of pure sterling silver and are designed for your new baby to safely chew on and play with while she’s teething, these heirloom pieces of jewelry.

4. Think Outside Maternity Wear

A blazer or cardigan for your pregnant wife makes a great gift on Mother’s Day because she can layer it over what she’s already picked out for her maternity tops and you don’t have to be too concerned about how it fits in the bust or belly, since both can be worn open.

Your primary size concern is to ensure the correct fit in the shoulders and sleeves. As for color and style, think about what she wears already and match it. You’ll have more options in terms of price and styles because you don’t have to shop in a maternity store for a nice spring blazer or cardigan.

5. A Card

I shouldn’t have to say, “Get a Mother’s Day card for your pregnant wife,” but since my husband has given me a card only once in the last three years we’ve been together for any occasion (birthday, Valentine’s Day and all other holidays combined=1 card in total), I realize that I probably do have to tell you this. If your wife is pregnant this Mother’s Day, get her a card. Inside the card, write at least 3 things about her that will make her a great mother. She will treasure that card forever, I promise you.

6. A Top Notch Baby Bag

giraffe diaper bagYou can’t go wrong with giving your wife a gorgeous baby bag for Mother’s Day. The baby bag is an item she will use every day and which can say a lot about her. Even if she has one already from baby #1 or received one from a baby shower, she will love a second, very stylish one as an extra.

There are a variety of styles of baby bags available to suit the personality of your pregnant wife: from bohemian to classic to hot rod…you name it. Browse through our selection of BPA-free (a potentially toxic substance you want your wife and baby to avoid; it’s common in vinyl bag linings and waterproof diaper changing pads) baby bags from OiOi, or look at StorkSak and the new styles from Timi & Leslie for good choices.

7. Breakfast in Bed

mother's day pregnant wifeAnother tried-and-true Mother’s Day hit is breakfast in bed. Might as well start the tradition while your wife is pregnant!

If you have older children and a pregnant wife, enlist the older kids to help you present Mom with breakfast in bed. As Dad, it’s your job to teach them to honor their mother, show her respect and learn to enjoy giving to her.

The week before Mother’s Day, take the kids with you to get Mother’s Day cards and ask them for their ideas about what to make her for breakfast. On the Saturday before Mother’s Day, take the kids grocery shopping and buy the ingredients you need (bonus points for doing the whole week’s shopping, too!). That night, make sure you tell the kids you’re going to get them up early to help make Mom’s breakfast. Then, on Sunday morning, follow through and get them in the kitchen. Mother’s Day breakfast for your pregnant wife can be as simple as peppermint tea, orange juice, fresh fruit, a toasted whole grain bagel with almond butter and yogurt. Or, as special as heart-shaped whole grain pancakes with fruit. It truly is the thought that counts.

8. Mother’s Day Maternity Spa Day

Prenatal massage has a lot of benefits to offer your pregnant wife, making it a great Mother’s Day present. Stress relief is an obvious plus, but prenatal massage also helps ease her pregnancy aches and pains, reduces pregnancy-related swelling, and promotes circulation and oxygenation of the blood throughout her body and baby’s, too.

Call around to local spas to find out which ones offer special maternity care services like prenatal massage.

9. Pregnancy Skin Care

pregnant wife gift Mothers DayYour wife’s sensitive pregnant skin is probably driving her crazy. Here’s why:

Her belly itches and her skin feels dry.

She doesn’t want stretch marks and she’s worried about still turning you on as she gets larger and larger.

Her feet and ankles and fingers and face are swelling and she may even be getting light brown patches on her face, arms and shoulders.

In other words, your pregnant wife’s skin could use some TLC. Give her beauty and comfort in a box for Mother’s Day, with one of our amazing organic skin care collections for pregnancy.

They smell scrumptious, they’re pure, safe and natural, and they’re designed specifically to help address all those skin care and beauty concerns she has.

This gift helps you tell your pregnant wife how beautiful you think she is on Mother’s Day and every day!

I hope those ideas help. Don’t be afraid to mix and match, coming up with your own special combinations of gifts for your pregnant wife this Mother’s Day.

Cheers,

Tara

Pregnancy Shampoo and Hair Care is Here

pregnancy shampooI’ve been asked numerous times over the years when we’re going to get a pregnancy shampoo and conditioner that meets our high standards. Because I choose our products not only based on their safety for pregnant women, but also by how well they work, it’s hard to find the breadth of items that I’d like. There are other safe products out there that pregnant women can use for beauty and body care in addition to what we offer at Maternitique, but most of them, in my opinion, aren’t worth the money you pay for them because they don’t give great results.

Hair care products are a good example, actually.

There are natural shampoos and conditioners in health food stores and, increasingly, in pharmacies, Target and even Wal-Mart. Brands such as Nature’s Gate, Burt’s Bees, and Alba are a few of the shampoos and conditioners that are safe options for pregnant women, mothers and families because they don’t contain parabens or sulfates—common ingredients in hair care products that are under investigation as possible carcinogens.

Every time I’ve tried those natural brands of shampoos and conditioners, however, I’ve been disappointed with the results. Either my hair doesn’t feel “clean” enough, or it’s left too oily, too heavy, too tangly and not conditioned enough. When I try to style my hair, I can’t get the body, volume or lift I want because the natural products just aren’t working the way I want them to.

Do I feel good that I’m paying extra to have healthier products on my skin and cleaner products in our water supply? Sure. But the feeling of satisfaction is missing because I don’t like the results.

So I keep searching.

If you’ve been searching for a pregnancy shampoo that’s free of sulfates, parabens, and dyes, you might have found yourself feeling the same kind of disappointment with other brands you’ve tried. If so, I think you’re going to love our newest addition to Maternitique’s pregnancy beauty collection.

Introducing Danu Hair Care, a line of pregnancy-safe shampoos, conditioners and styling products formulated by hair stylists especially for mothers concerned about icky ingredients in their hair products.

The founders of Danu, Tiffany Moll and Jessica McCoy, are both hair stylists, mothers and co-owners of a hair salon. After over a decade of professional work in salons, they became educated about the ingredients in the hair care products they used in their salon and at home with their families. They were especially concerned about the links between many of those ingredients to cancer, reproductive interference and allergies. After all, women are the primary customers of a hair salon!

So they began to search for safer, healthier alternatives. To their disappointment, the natural brands of shampoo, conditioner and styling products they found delivered lackluster results—results that would put them out of business if they were to use them at the salon!

So Tiffany and Jessica decided to look into making their own safer, healthier, cleaner hair care products and thus, Danu was born.

Named after the Celtic goddess Mother Earth, Danu hair care products are a safer choice for pregnant and new mothers because they’re:

  • Paraben-free
  • Dye-free
  • Sulfate-free
  • Retinoid-free
  • Gluten-free
  • Rich in organic ingredients
  • Rich in natural ingredients
  • Feature other cosmetic ingredients with a low toxicity rating in the Cosmetic Safety Database

Yay! As it says on the back of Danu’s Mother Fluffer Volumizing Shampoo: “Lather, rinse, rejoice!”

So here’s what we have to offer from Danu:

Mother Fluffer Volumizing Shampoo & Conditioner – for beautiful bounce and fullness

Moisture Mama Hydrating Shampoo & Conditioner – for color-treated and normal/dry hair

Vanilla Oil Styling Treatment – for adding shine and controlling frizz

Multitasker Hydrovolumizer – a leave-in treatment that prevents split ends, protects color treatments, adds shine and bounce

Pregnant mamas, new mamas and women TTC, love your hair with this worry-free collection, new from Danu!

Cheers,

Tara

 

When a Woman Becomes a Mother

are you my motherOne of the things I notice in social media circles when it gets close to Mother’s Day (which is May 13, 2012, BTW), is that a significant percentage of first-time pregnant women say that they don’t consider themselves “mothers” yet. A bunch of men agree, or at least think the same thing, as I read comments on blogs, Facebook and Twitter about how husbands tell their pregnant wives that they aren’t going to give them anything for Mother’s Day because they’re “not mothers yet.”

I find myself encountering those comments and sentiments with something close to shock (and maybe a touch of anger or defensiveness). “What do you mean she’s not a mother yet? She’s pregnant, isn’t she? She’s caring for a child, isn’t she? She’s already sacrificing her body, energy, sleep, and possibly self-confidence already, isn’t she? She’s probably also already feeling guilty and inadequate, isn’t she? How can she not be a mother?!”

Pop quiz: answer the following question.

When does a woman become a mother? When she’s:

A. Pregnant.
B. Nurturing and loving a child.
C. Given birth and is caring for a child.
D. Any of the above.

If you’re not sure, you’re not alone. Even the dictionaries don’t agree:

define mother

It was 16 years ago that I was a first-time pregnant woman on Mother’s Day. Truthfully, I can’t remember if my then-husband gave me anything or if we celebrated the holiday beyond doing things for our mothers and grandmothers.

But I do remember the moment when the positive pregnancy test “sunk in.” Sitting at the kitchen table in our Portland, Maine apartment with the sun’s light reflecting off the snow outside and bouncing into the window, I considered and began to understand what the news meant. I began to see flashes of the future, like a slide show. First image: me and my husband holding a baby. Advance image: me and my husband getting divorced (yeah, I could see it coming). Advance image: me and my baby alone. Advance image: handing off my baby to my ex for the weekends. Advance image: playing and laughing with my child. And so on. I could see it. And as I saw it, I felt an overflow of emotions bubbling through me all at once: joy, excitement, terror, panic, love, doubt, confidence.

And I changed.

In that moment, contemplating the child I was choosing to bring into the world and into my life, I made my first promise as Mother to Child. I promised to take care of her and love her with my whole heart.

Whether I knew it at the time, I became a mother in that moment of my pregnancy.

And I guess now that I really sit back and recall what I felt like in the beginning of my first pregnancy, I can empathize a bit with the first-timers who are pregnant and not feeling like mothers yet. And their spouses or partners who don’t see her that way either.

But just because you don’t feel like you’re a mother yet, doesn’t mean you aren’t!

You’re on your way. Becoming a mother is a journey that begins in pregnancy and never ends.

I hope it’s a beautiful journey for you and I hope that you celebrate the mother you are becoming this upcoming Mother’s Day.

Love,

Tara

Coloring Hair in Pregnancy – Kourtney Kardashian Does it, Do You?

hair-color-pregnancyThe topic of coloring hair in pregnancy was all over the celebrity gossip circuit last Tuesday after Kourtney Kardashian posted on her blogs that she was “Changing Up My Hair Color.”

Why do I know what people are gossiping about celebrities? It’s so hard to avoid this stuff! But I thought I’d share this bit of information since the topic of coloring hair in pregnancy is relevant to Materni-Talk readers and Kourtney’s blog post was spot-on in terms of safety questions and doctors’ advice.

Kardashian, in her second trimester of pregnancy with her second child, wrote on her blog that she hadn’t changed her hair color in over a decade and felt it was “time for some fun” now.

Normally a dark brunette, Kardashian added some brown highlights to her hair, which lightened it considerably. She explains on her blog that she chose to highlight her hair instead of do all-over color because that was recommended by her doctor as the safest choice for hair coloring in pregnancy.

“Anyone who knows anything about me knows that I take caution in all the products I use all the time, but especially when pregnant,” she wrote. Good girl!

Highlighting uses considerably less dye than all-over color, and with highlights that are streaked in, colorists can avoid touching dye to the scalp, also reducing mom’s—and baby’s exposure—to the hair coloring chemicals.

The other advice for coloring hair in pregnancy that Kardashian received from her doctor and shared on her blog included:

  • avoid using hair coloring products that contain ammonia
  • make sure you sit in a well-ventilated area
  • wait until your second trimester of pregnancy to do any hair coloring

The down side to coloring your hair during pregnancy is that if you don’t like it, you might be less inclined to proceed with more treatments to “fix it.” Kourtney Kardashian is sounding like she’s not that crazy about her new look, but says, “At this point, I don’t want anything else on my hair besides sulfate free shampoo and conditioner.”

Hey Kourtney, guess what’s coming to Maternitique this week? Sulfate-free pregnancy shampoo and conditioners!

Would I be coloring my hair in pregnancy? No, probably not. I’ve only done it once in the last 5 years and that was for my wedding in February. For me, hair coloring isn’t so important that I’d do it during pregnancy.

How about you? Do you color your hair in pregnancy?

Cheers,

Tara

Wordless Wednesday

wordless wednesday blog

Well, technically, this image has words in it, so I’m not sure it’s a true “Wordless Wednesday” blog post, but the pregnancy and new mom sentiment was too beautiful not to share. I also pinned it on Pinterest, where I’ve been spending some time this week. You can view my boards at http://pinterest.com/maternitique/

Cheers,

Tara

Fear of Pregnancy and Childbirth

Did you know there’s such a phobia as tokophobia?

Tokophobia is the fear of pregnancy and childbirth.

Someone I know and am friends with on Facebook just posted the following on her page:

Tokophobia – fear of childbirth or pregnancy. Does having nightmares of both for eleven years after being pregnant and giving birth and doubling up on birth control methods for several years after the kid was born to prevent another pregnancy count as a phobia? I think it probably does. Apparently I’m not the only woman who has this.

I’m such a pregnancy and birth junkie that it never even crossed my mind that there would be such a deep-seated fear as to be a clinical phobia about one or the other.

Do you know anyone who has such a fear of pregnancy or childbirth that she might be considered tokophobic?

Love,

Tara

Pregnant Easter Egg Belly

This video blogger celebrated her 29th week of pregnancy on Easter in 2010 and with her young cousins and some belly paint, turned her pregnant belly into an Easter egg.

Happy Easter!


 

Love,

Tara

Passover Inspires Baby Names

Happy Passover! If you celebrate Passover, you might be interested to take a look at the list of Passover-inspired baby names over at Babycenter.com.

You’ll see some interesting suggestions, and, in my opinion, the boys’ names win out over the girls’.

Girls names inspired by Passover:
While we all know of an Apple, I’m not sure any of us could think of a Puah.

Boys names inspired by Passover:
I love the names Aaron and Levi.

I dig their suggestion of Nile as a unisex name, too, although I do think you’d have to be a celebrity to get away with it.

Enjoy,

Tara

Sh*t Crunchy Mamas Say

Because I’m already breaking my “no foul words or crude language” rule by re-posting this video entitled “Sh*t Crunchy Mamas Say,” I’m going to go ahead and plainly admit that I think this video from Mama Natural is f*cking hilarious.

From the intermittent breast pump audio to the “spirulina” to the references to “The Business of Being Born” to the lament that “Oh, Facebook took down another one of my breastfeeding photos…” this 90-second video had me laughing out loud from beginning to end.

Whether you watch “Sh*t Crunchy Mamas Say,” and laugh with us or at us, like this post on Facebook, share it and brighten someone else’s day. After all, it’s #FridayFunny time. Have a great weekend.

Do you have anything to add to “Sh*t Crunchy Mamas Say?” Which things have you said? 

Love,

Tara

SmartChoices for Postpartum Care

postpartum careThe thing about postpartum care is that what it entails is often a surprise to first-time new mothers.

After the months of coping with pregnancy surprises, preparing for childbirth, learning about breastfeeding, assembling a nursery, learning about car seats, arranging for maternity leave and picking out birth announcements, the details of postpartum care become a tiny footnote in many first-time new mother’s notebook of maternity information.

Fast-forward to the first hours after her baby’s birth, however, and you find a first-time new mother facing unexpected postpartum discomforts, ranging from the empty balloon-like post-baby belly, vaginal tearing or episiotomy, hemorrhoids (which are a common result of pushing during labor), a sore, itchy c-section scar, painful postpartum cramping, and a bruised perineum that makes her uncomfortable when sitting and going to the bathroom.

There’s nothing glamorous about a postpartum woman’s body–except its ability to heal itself.

With tender, attentive postpartum care, a new mother’s body is incredibly capable of healing and recovering from the intense labor of, well, labor and childbirth.

The new, first-time mother is vulnerable. Childbirth is a vulnerable experience, and as most first-time mothers will attest, leaving the hospital or birth center with a tiny newborn in her arms also adds to that profound feeling of vulnerability. The little life is dependent on you, and your partner, and it’s not uncommon to question how well you’re up to the task.

Struggles with first attempts at breastfeeding can add to a new mother’s sense of inadequacy.

Then, to top it off, she comes home to those unexpected side effects of childbirth mentioned above. She’s given sanitary pads and a peri bottle and told to rinse her genitals with each trip to the bathroom and to call her health care provider if she passes any clots larger than a half-dollar.

That prescription tends to be the sum total of advice a first-time new mom gets with postpartum care.

It’s inadequate and, I would argue, disrespectful and insensitive to her vulnerability, to provide so little help and comfort for her postpartum care.

Enter SmartChoices.

SmartChoices is a line of postpartum care products that bring much-deserved dignity and comfort to new mothers in a time when they are so vulnerable. Designed by midwives, the SmartChoices products respect new mothers’ natural femininity and vulnerability, helping to deliver comfort and confidence to those uncomfortable first weeks of new motherhood.

After much struggle to bring SmartChoices postpartum care products to Maternitique, I’m excited to finally have them in stock. Here’s what they are and what they do:

SmartChoices for Postpartum Care

Postpartum Feme Pads

smartchoices feme padThat swollen, bruised and perhaps torn or cut perineum I mentioned above? Your health care provider will likely suggest applying ice packs to soothe the pain and help reduce swelling.

Let me just tell you that sitting on an ice pack with a postpartum coochie is not the most comfortable experience in the world. And it could be painful enough that you choose to forgo the ice treatment altogether.

Postpartum Feme Pads are a unique, ideal alternative to ice packs because of their patented gel that stays cushiony even after freezing. Designed by a midwife to make postpartum ice therapy more comfortable and soothing, Feme Pads are shaped and contoured for your body and are simply a must-have for new moms’ postpartum care.

Disposable Postpartum Underwear

disposable postpartum underwearSome hospitals or birth centers will include mesh underwear with your going home supplies. Good luck wearing them!

Okay, they’re not impossible to wear successfully, but one of their problems is that they’re basically one-size-fits-all. Plus, they’re mesh, so they’re loaded with holes. Since 99% of the sanitary pads these days come with adhesive strips to stick onto underwear, the mesh doesn’t allow you to keep your sanitary pad in place. Your postpartum blood flow is going to be HEAVY, and the leaking can create quite a mess. Yeah, it’s super fun to have to change your own pants and stain treat them almost as many times as you’re changing your new baby’s diaper (that was sarcasm). Oh, and one more thing. When your pubic hair meets the mesh underwear: ouch.

While SmartChoices’ Disposable Postpartum Underwear can be considered single-use, they are able to be hand-washed and re-used, too. But then, the price is so low that you might just prefer to wear them once and toss them after. The benefit to these Disposable Postpartum Underwear is that they aren’t mesh, so you can get your sanitary pads to stick and stay still. And because they come in multiple sizes, and are contoured to fit like real underwear,  risk of having gaps, or uncomfortable pulling or pinching is significantly reduced.

Breast Soother Gel Pads

breast soother gel padAnother not-uncommon postpartum experience is breast pain associated with breastfeeding. The most common reasons: nipple soreness and pain from engorgement or mastitis. While you can prevent and address the underlying causes of nipple soreness with improved latch, and from mastitis with a properly fit nursing bra, and engorgement with regular breastfeeding and milk expression, the symptoms of all of the above are pain.

To instantly relieve the pain associated with common breastfeeding problems, Breast Soother Gel Pads can help. Also designed by a midwife to help new mothers, the Breast Soother Gel Pads are shaped and contoured to fit around the breast. The soft gel pads can actually conform around your breasts and fit inside your bra to stay secure (try doing that with an ice pack!). They can be warmed in hot water to relieve blocked milk ducts or mastitis, or cooled in the freezer to soothe pain and engorgement.

Disposable Nursing Pads

disposable nursing padsI’m a big fan of choosing reusable things over disposable (we are from Portland, Oregon, after all), but I’m not going to lie: I think disposable nursing pads are good.

Disposable nursing pads are necessary for most new mothers because leaking breast milk can happen anywhere and everywhere. While you may be working or traveling to places where it’s convenient to remove saturated cloth nursing pads and stash them discreetly in a baggie, you may not.

You may find that for the sake of your own sanity and convenience, having disposable nursing pads in your pants pocket and swapping them out in a restroom is a faster, easier way to prevent leaks from showing through your clothes when you’re out and about, or back at the office. Your call. I don’t judge. I do want to make disposable nursing pads available to new moms for the above reason, and think the SmartChoices ones are a great option because they’re lint-free, highly absorbent, and have an adhesive to help them stay put.

New Mom First Days Kit

new mom first days kitAll of the above postpartum care products from SmartChoices are available in the New Mom First Days Kit. Some assembly is required (you have to put the items in the canvas bag that comes with the kit), but this collection of postpartum care products conveniently gets the new mom on the road to instant comfort and speedy healing.

 

The Last Word in Postpartum Care

While SmartChoices products fill the gaping hole of postpartum care left by most maternity brands, that doesn’t mean they’re the last word in postpartum care. C-section scar care, ointment for stitches, hemorrhoid cream and postpartum cramping won’t be completely addressed by the SmartChoices postpartum care line—but we have other products that do.

Read my blog post, “15 Natural Postpartum Care Tips” for more information about natural, comforting postpartum care ideas.

Postpartum is a unique time in a new mother’s life, and thankfully, it passes quickly. Be gentle with yourself and take care. You’ll be back to normal in no time.

Love,

Tara

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